Question & Answer About Porn
I received the following three questions first back in 2005 and wrote a blog about them.
“What is your view on porn? Is there anything wrong with it (porn)? Can someone be addicted (to porn)?"
I’ve taken that blog and I just rewrote it with updates. I know that there are people out there needing to hear what I’ve written. I hope and pray that what I’ve wrote finds them.
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Praise God these questions came my way! As one who has been down the porn road and now set free, I feel God has given me a unique perspective and insight to address this issue. This may come as a shock to some as you read through my reply but it is a reply that tells how I was set free and can set other captives free!
Porn can be and is VERY addictive. I was hooked on porn from the time I was about 14 up until about seven years ago. I was introduced to porn at an early age by a friend of mine’s big brother. Needless to say being introduced to porn at such an early age really messed with the way I saw women.
Porn has destroyed so very much in my life I wouldn't know where to start. Being Bi-Polar with a very heavy manic side, I came very close several times to having a run in with the law. Why I never got in trouble with the law is beyond me. The only thing that I can think of that saved me from traveling down that terrible road was God. God had a better plan for my life!
I tried being a Christian, a husband, & a good father while hooked on porn. Where did it get me? I was divorced from my wife & separated from my kids. I also lost a lot of friends and had several disastrous relationships with women all because of the way my brain was skewered on porn. That's what porn does. It messes with your mind and destroys your sense of reality.
What saved me from porn? God. Pure, plain, & simple! When I hit the end of my rope so to say and had nothing else to live for about seven years ago I just simply gave up. My wife who divorced me in 1996 and remarried me in December of 1999 believing that somehow I still had some redeeming value in me and that I did indeed need to be the father that God has called me to be took me in to the local mental health crisis center for help.
After years and years of being addicted to porn I was very close to suicide. I didn’t care. I had nothing to loose. I said “What the hell? Here’s what I’ve done. Here’s what I feel. And here’s what I’m taking (abusing).” I laid it all out. The porn addiction, the OTC speed addiction, the self mutilation addiction that was a result of the porn addiction. I threw it all out there just to show how screwed up I had gotten myself. I had the “Here, YOU deal with it” attitude!
Little did I know that what I was doing was the single most freeing thing that I could do. I dumped it all. I held nothing back. I told my psychiatrist, my counselor, my Pastor, & I even told our family doctor some of it. The one person that I expected that would be the most likely to give me the boot or explode all over me was the one that cared the most. That was our Pastor.
The care that our Pastor took to make sure I got treatment, to talk with me, to love on me, to lift me up when I got down was more then I could have ever imagined! The problem is that our Pastor has seen way too many men get caught in the snare, the trap of porn and have their whole lives ruined. Mine was ruined here too. The difference was our Pastor had an opportunity to be Jesus to me, to free me from the trap, the snare that had so entangled me.
I’m Bi-Polar and back then I was having some serious Bi-Polar mood swings. Being Bi-Polar has an absurdly, seriously, dangerous side. When you’re on the high, manic side of Bi-Polar and you have a porn addiction you’ll crave porn just like a crack addict craves crack. When you’re on the down, depression side of Bi-Polar having the porn addiction is just more thing to come in and pound you down. With Bi-Polar & porn there is no middle ground. That’s what makes porn so absurdly, seriously, dangerous.
My advice to anyone with a porn addiction, especially those that are Bi-Polar, tell your psychiatrist, your counselor, your Pastor, a close friend, your spouse if you have one. Tell someone that is willing to help you beat this addiction. Beating this addiction is going to be just like beating an alcohol or drug addiction. Why do I say that? It’s medically proven porn causes dopamine to be released in the brain causing a drug high.
Dopamine is a chemical that your body produces when you’re having sex. God designed sex to be between a husband and a wife. God designed sex so that when a husband and a wife are having sex dopamine is released enhancing the experience drawing the husband and wife closer together and thus giving them a longing deep inside for each other and the want to continue sexual relations. Any sex that is outside of the marriage bonds of a man and a woman is an abomination unto God which is exactly what porn does!
Another problem with porn is that it is somewhat culturally accepted and it is pretty much legal. So were the over the counter speed pills I was hooked on. So are cigarettes. So is alcohol. So on and so forth. They will all kill you. Period! How will porn kill you? For starters if you get deep enough into porn, which is so very easy to do and you won’t know it until it’s too late, is that porn can lead to such severe depression that one may very well commit suicide or at least try. At the very least it will kill your relationship God! It will also kill you emotionally and socially.
The good news is that I found something to replace that high I was getting from porn. This is a high that is better then any high porn or drugs could ever give me. This high has no end. This high is not destructive. This high is in fact very good for you. This high has brought me a ton of healing. What is this high? This high is Jesus!
If you’re playing around with porn, STOP!!! If you can’t stop, you need help. Like I said earlier, get help! This is your life. Don’t loose it over porn!
I hope and pray that hits home with some!
Be Blessed!
BIG SCOTT
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Tuesday, November 09, 2010
Where Did Summer Go?
Greetings!
Wow! Where did the summer go? What a great summer I had as far as witnessing went. I had the pleasure of praying with fourteen people while I was doing street ministry during the summer months. It is definitely fun witnessing when the Holy Spirit is being poured out!
It’s now time to start transitioning to cold weather witnessing. Now I’ll be going out more during the day than in the evenings. This week I’ve been focusing on one of the local laundromats. One thing that everyone at laundromats have in common is that everyone has time to wait while the clothes are either washing or drying. This makes for an awesome evangelistic opportunity!
We’ve been unfortunate in that our clothes dryer has went out on us. We’ve got a maintenance repair plan on our appliances here in our home but it looks like it will be another week or two before they can get it fixed. In the mean time we’ve been having to go to a local laundromat every day to dry clothes. When we go to the laundromats as soon as I get our clothes going I start passing out million dollar bill Gospel tracts and Gospels of John. I usually tuck a million dollar bill inside a Gospel of John and then hand them as one. I’m happy to report that in the past week or so I’ve went through a bunch of Gospels of John and even more million dollar bills!
I’m looking forward to getting my video camcorder back out of the shop. I plan on going down to the county courthouse here in Wichita around lunch time and setting up and interviewing people like I did this summer at the Keeper of the Plains. I’ve found as long as the temperature is close to fifty degrees and the wind isn’t blowing people will stop and talk with you. I’m looking forward to reporting back to you with some great news!
Until then…
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
September Blog/Update/Newsletter
Greetings!
Good News! Since the last time I wrote I’m pleased to announce that I’ve had four more people pray with me on the streets for salvation! Praise God! In fact this past weekend I had something happen that I never had happen before. I had a father and a son both pray with me at the same time for salvation! That was really pretty neat and had me all excited!
I have to confess that I’m not a real strong prayer warrior. I don’t know why but I consider prayer my weakness in my Christian life. This past week was no different for me in my prayer life. I realized while I was heading out to witness that I wasn’t “prayed up”. So while driving across town I was praying “Lord, I’m sorry I haven’t been praying like I should but would you please bring me divine appointments?”
I’ve come to realize that God wants nothing more then for someone to come to the saving grace of his son Jesus Christ. Angels rejoice in Heaven when someone gets saved! Therefore I also know now that the Lord is quick to answer prayer when you’re praying fo the lost to come in especially when you’re praying for you to be the one bringing in the harvest so to speak.
It was kind of interesting how the father and the son came to pray with me for salvation. I went to Old Town first Saturday evening but I was getting no where there so I headed over to the Keeper of the Plains for the fire pits lighting. Sure enough there was a good crowd there. The first two people I witnessed with were both very saved Christians. As I was finishing with the second person I prayed under my breath real quick “Lord I need a divine appointment!”
The next thing I did was to turn around and as I was turning around another gentleman was turning around right in front of me. I looked at him and said cheerfully “Hi!” which he returned right back. I told him I was working on a project where I interview people and asked him if I could interview him and he agreed. I started taking him through the Way of the Master method and it didn’t take very long for the Dad to confess he was headed to hell and that really bother him.
At this point I shared with him and his son what it takes to go to Heaven, then both of them agreed to pray with me to accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior! We prayed together and when we got done things were winding down at the Keeper of the Plains so we talked more and I made sure he understood what just happened and he did. As a side note there’s not a much better feeling here on earth then leading someone to Christ! Give it a try, you might just like it too!!!
Monday, August 09, 2010
August Newsletter/Update
I guess I’ll start this blog out the same way I started out my blog/newsletter from last month. Wow! What an exciting month that July has been! I was able to pass out a couple hundred more tracts and many more heard the Good News of Jesus Christ with a total of nine salvations for Jesus Christ!
I’ve never had the pleasure of leading nine people to Jesus in one year let alone one month but the Holy Spirit was most definitely moving in July! Even more interesting all of the salvations took place at the Keeper of the Plains here in Wichita. I started the month of by leading three young people to the Lord all at one time and one by one they kept coming in!
It was kind of interesting what I did. I did what I saw another street evangelist in Atlanta do. I went and got me a camera, tripod, microphone, and someone to run the camera for me. We set up down at the Keeper of the Plains in the evening just before sunset which is when it gets busy there and I just invited people to come on camera so I could interview them.
You’d be amazed at how easy it is sometimes to get people to come on camera and talk to you! The first question that I ask is “When someone’s life on earth is over, when someone dies, do you believe there is any kind of afterlife or is that it?” Here in Wichita I find somewhere around a fourth of the people have a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. The other three quarters run the gamut from a mix of eastern religion to evolutionists not sure what they believe and everything in between!
What I try to do is to use the Way of the Master method of witnessing. Once I find out that they’re not saved I try to take them through the Ten Commandments to show them their sins and to show them why they need Jesus. The Way of the Master method works really great in that you are not judging them rather they see in their own hearts why they need a savior!
I will add that the Lord in the middle of this month gave me a goal to try to reach. Since I’ve been saved in 1988 it’s been my goal to try to lead one person a year to the Lord. Last month in the middle of July the Lord spoke to my heart and gave me the challenge of leading one person a WEEK to the Lord! To do this I’m going to need help and support from my family & friends. Please pray that the Lord will bless me with what I need to do this. Also please pray for my boldness to reach out so I can do what the Lord has called me to do! This is going to be a huge challenge for me but with the Lord’s help and the leading of the Holy Spirit I can do it!
Thank you for your time, prayers, & support!
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
I’ve never had the pleasure of leading nine people to Jesus in one year let alone one month but the Holy Spirit was most definitely moving in July! Even more interesting all of the salvations took place at the Keeper of the Plains here in Wichita. I started the month of by leading three young people to the Lord all at one time and one by one they kept coming in!
It was kind of interesting what I did. I did what I saw another street evangelist in Atlanta do. I went and got me a camera, tripod, microphone, and someone to run the camera for me. We set up down at the Keeper of the Plains in the evening just before sunset which is when it gets busy there and I just invited people to come on camera so I could interview them.
You’d be amazed at how easy it is sometimes to get people to come on camera and talk to you! The first question that I ask is “When someone’s life on earth is over, when someone dies, do you believe there is any kind of afterlife or is that it?” Here in Wichita I find somewhere around a fourth of the people have a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. The other three quarters run the gamut from a mix of eastern religion to evolutionists not sure what they believe and everything in between!
What I try to do is to use the Way of the Master method of witnessing. Once I find out that they’re not saved I try to take them through the Ten Commandments to show them their sins and to show them why they need Jesus. The Way of the Master method works really great in that you are not judging them rather they see in their own hearts why they need a savior!
I will add that the Lord in the middle of this month gave me a goal to try to reach. Since I’ve been saved in 1988 it’s been my goal to try to lead one person a year to the Lord. Last month in the middle of July the Lord spoke to my heart and gave me the challenge of leading one person a WEEK to the Lord! To do this I’m going to need help and support from my family & friends. Please pray that the Lord will bless me with what I need to do this. Also please pray for my boldness to reach out so I can do what the Lord has called me to do! This is going to be a huge challenge for me but with the Lord’s help and the leading of the Holy Spirit I can do it!
Thank you for your time, prayers, & support!
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Update
Wow! What an exciting month that June has been! New commitments for Christ, the lost hearing the Good News of Jesus Christ, and well over 500 of the million dollar bill gospel tracts passed out! I’m really excited as I expect July and August to be even better!
Here’s something exciting that I feel the Lord has laid on my heart. Ever since I was saved in 1988 I’ve had the goal of leading at least one person to Christ every year. It’s just something that I feel the Lord really wanted me to do. Well this week I feel that the Lord is turning up the heat quite a bit as I feel he wants me to lead at least one person a week to Christ! Wow! What a challenge and call!
I know that I can’t do this on my own. I’ll really need to be tuned into the Holy Spirit very closely to do this! In addition I need your help. Please pray for me to first be led by the Holy Spirit and secondly please pray for “divine appointments” so that the Lord brings people into my life or across my path that are open to hearing the Good News of the Gospel of Jesus Christ!
The weather has to say the least been very conducive to witnessing! We had some highs close to one hundred degrees but most of the month was in the upper eighties to the low nineties which made witnessing in the evenings very comfortable weather wise!
This past month here in Wichita I’ve been going to Old Town on at least every Friday and Saturday evening and sometimes I would even hit Old Town during the week if there was a crowd as there was last night with people all over waiting for the midnight opening of the Twilight saga. I addition I’ve been trying to hit the Keeper of the Plains three to four nights a week.
One of the more fun things that I did this past month and I plan on doing the rest of the summer is taking the kids, George our seven year old in particular, to the various free water parks we are blessed with here in Wichita. There are three main water parks that we hit. What we do while we are there is for George and the other kids to run and have fun and I walk around and pass out million dollar bill Gospel tracts and witness to the parents that are there with there kids. I kind of makes for a captive audience which is rather nice!
July is shaping up to be a very busy month witnessing too! This coming weekend, July first through the fourth, Wichita is hosting a national convention here in town. The GTO Owners Association of America rolls into our fair city. We’re going to be invaded by a couple of hundred or so Pontiac GTO’s, plus their owners & car buffs in general. I look for this to be an awesome ministry opportunity!
In addition Automobilia's 16th Moonlight Car Show & Street Party invades Old Town Saturday, July tenth from 6:00 p.m. to midnight. This car show is free and open to the public and usually draws at least a couple hundred street cars plus well over ten thousand spectators! This one we will be out in full force for! We are also planning on filming and doing interviews at this car show.
Speaking of filming and doing interviews we finally got all of our equipment set up and running last Thursday. We set up to film at the Keeper of the Plains to see how things would go. I had Kevin running the camera and I did the interviewing. What we did was I would tell people that we were working on a documentary and would they mind if I interviewed them and asked them a few questions. In other words I thought that I’d be Ray Comfort from Way of the Master!
The first question I asked was what do you think happens when your life on earth is over, when people pass to the other side? We found that this was a great question to ask and it really got most people to really open up! We only had one guy walk away from our filming and we even had one young man admit he was going to Hell and he said he would go to his youth pastor and tell him he needed Jesus and he needed to be saved!
The only problem we encountered in our filming is that when we played back our filming we had no audio! We hope to have this problem solved shortly so we can get back to filming as it is such an awesome way to get people to open up! In addition I mentioned above that I was telling people that we are shooting a documentary. What we hope to do is shoot throughout the summer and then edit things down and put out a DVD for training and educational purposes.
To change the subject here a little bit people have been asking me how my health has been doing. In addition I guess I ought to give an update on my Bi-Polar Disorder and my ADHD since this is what part of this blog is about.
In case you didn’t know I’ve got Chronic Respiratory Failure which means my lungs aren’t working right. In addition I still have my diabetes. I’m still having trouble with my breathing and things haven’t really gotten any better or any worse for about a year and a half now. The good news is it appears I have my diabetes under control and I’m not taking insulin shots, just pills only (Yea God!).
Back to my mental health issues. My Bi-Polar seems to be fairly well under control. The doctor the other day made a small change in my meds to help me loose weight and I hope it helps! As far as my ADHD (adult attention hyperactivity disorder) I’m really not taking anything for it. I’ve tried ADHD meds in the past and they just messed with me way to much so right now I’m just resigned to having fun with my ADHD! My wife and kids are very understanding of my ADHD and my wife and kids know they just need to remind Dad every once in while that he is forgetting something or he needs to go do something!
Oh well, that’s it for now. I know this blog went a little long but thanks for reading it. In addition I know that many of my readers are also praying for both me and my ministry. If that’s you, a great big THANK YOU goes out to you!
Until next time…
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
Here’s something exciting that I feel the Lord has laid on my heart. Ever since I was saved in 1988 I’ve had the goal of leading at least one person to Christ every year. It’s just something that I feel the Lord really wanted me to do. Well this week I feel that the Lord is turning up the heat quite a bit as I feel he wants me to lead at least one person a week to Christ! Wow! What a challenge and call!
I know that I can’t do this on my own. I’ll really need to be tuned into the Holy Spirit very closely to do this! In addition I need your help. Please pray for me to first be led by the Holy Spirit and secondly please pray for “divine appointments” so that the Lord brings people into my life or across my path that are open to hearing the Good News of the Gospel of Jesus Christ!
The weather has to say the least been very conducive to witnessing! We had some highs close to one hundred degrees but most of the month was in the upper eighties to the low nineties which made witnessing in the evenings very comfortable weather wise!
This past month here in Wichita I’ve been going to Old Town on at least every Friday and Saturday evening and sometimes I would even hit Old Town during the week if there was a crowd as there was last night with people all over waiting for the midnight opening of the Twilight saga. I addition I’ve been trying to hit the Keeper of the Plains three to four nights a week.
One of the more fun things that I did this past month and I plan on doing the rest of the summer is taking the kids, George our seven year old in particular, to the various free water parks we are blessed with here in Wichita. There are three main water parks that we hit. What we do while we are there is for George and the other kids to run and have fun and I walk around and pass out million dollar bill Gospel tracts and witness to the parents that are there with there kids. I kind of makes for a captive audience which is rather nice!
July is shaping up to be a very busy month witnessing too! This coming weekend, July first through the fourth, Wichita is hosting a national convention here in town. The GTO Owners Association of America rolls into our fair city. We’re going to be invaded by a couple of hundred or so Pontiac GTO’s, plus their owners & car buffs in general. I look for this to be an awesome ministry opportunity!
In addition Automobilia's 16th Moonlight Car Show & Street Party invades Old Town Saturday, July tenth from 6:00 p.m. to midnight. This car show is free and open to the public and usually draws at least a couple hundred street cars plus well over ten thousand spectators! This one we will be out in full force for! We are also planning on filming and doing interviews at this car show.
Speaking of filming and doing interviews we finally got all of our equipment set up and running last Thursday. We set up to film at the Keeper of the Plains to see how things would go. I had Kevin running the camera and I did the interviewing. What we did was I would tell people that we were working on a documentary and would they mind if I interviewed them and asked them a few questions. In other words I thought that I’d be Ray Comfort from Way of the Master!
The first question I asked was what do you think happens when your life on earth is over, when people pass to the other side? We found that this was a great question to ask and it really got most people to really open up! We only had one guy walk away from our filming and we even had one young man admit he was going to Hell and he said he would go to his youth pastor and tell him he needed Jesus and he needed to be saved!
The only problem we encountered in our filming is that when we played back our filming we had no audio! We hope to have this problem solved shortly so we can get back to filming as it is such an awesome way to get people to open up! In addition I mentioned above that I was telling people that we are shooting a documentary. What we hope to do is shoot throughout the summer and then edit things down and put out a DVD for training and educational purposes.
To change the subject here a little bit people have been asking me how my health has been doing. In addition I guess I ought to give an update on my Bi-Polar Disorder and my ADHD since this is what part of this blog is about.
In case you didn’t know I’ve got Chronic Respiratory Failure which means my lungs aren’t working right. In addition I still have my diabetes. I’m still having trouble with my breathing and things haven’t really gotten any better or any worse for about a year and a half now. The good news is it appears I have my diabetes under control and I’m not taking insulin shots, just pills only (Yea God!).
Back to my mental health issues. My Bi-Polar seems to be fairly well under control. The doctor the other day made a small change in my meds to help me loose weight and I hope it helps! As far as my ADHD (adult attention hyperactivity disorder) I’m really not taking anything for it. I’ve tried ADHD meds in the past and they just messed with me way to much so right now I’m just resigned to having fun with my ADHD! My wife and kids are very understanding of my ADHD and my wife and kids know they just need to remind Dad every once in while that he is forgetting something or he needs to go do something!
Oh well, that’s it for now. I know this blog went a little long but thanks for reading it. In addition I know that many of my readers are also praying for both me and my ministry. If that’s you, a great big THANK YOU goes out to you!
Until next time…
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
Thursday, June 03, 2010
I’m gearing up for a big weekend here in Wichita and I really need your prayers! Here’s my street witnessing itinerary for this weekend as it stands now. First, Friday evening I’ll be at the Plaza West Car Show at Central & West here in Wichita until from about 7:00 - 8:30. At 8:30 I head to the Keeper of the Plains for a little bit and then Lord willing I will finish off in Old Town.
Saturday evening I start at the Rumble in Delano (http://www.rumbleindelano.com/) from about 6:00 or so and I’ll be there until about 8:30 when I’ll go back to the Keeper of the Plains for a short time again and then its back over to Old Town to finish out the night.
Like I said I’ve got a busy two evenings planned and could really use your prayers!
Thanks in advance for your prayers & thoughts!
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
Saturday evening I start at the Rumble in Delano (http://www.rumbleindelano.com/) from about 6:00 or so and I’ll be there until about 8:30 when I’ll go back to the Keeper of the Plains for a short time again and then its back over to Old Town to finish out the night.
Like I said I’ve got a busy two evenings planned and could really use your prayers!
Thanks in advance for your prayers & thoughts!
Be Blessed!!!
Scott Kliewer
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